“The Bible and the Pain of Infertility”: Learning to Weep with Those Who Weep

Paul exhorts us as the one body of Christ to, “Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.” (Romans 12:15). Elsewhere he writes, “If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together” (1 Corinthians 12:16). When it comes to suffering, there is at least one area where many members of the body of Christ are suffering, and yet many Christians are unaware of the true pain that they are going through. What I have in mind is the pain of infertility. While I have never suffered from this myself, I want to learn how to weep with those who weep over infertility, having had several brothers and sisters in Christ who have and still are going through this pain. I also feel that more Christians should be aware of the struggle that the couple sitting next to them in the pew may be going through and should learn how to pray for them, how they can encourage them, and how they can avoid discouraging them. It’s also important for couples who are struggling with infertility to hear comforting counsel from God’s Word and wise advice for their situation.

Not enough has been written on this topic, but here is one article that I found this past year that I highly recommend every Christian read, whether struggling with infertility or not. It’s called “The Bible and the Pain of Infertility” by Kimberly Monroe and Philip Monroe. It is written by a Christian couple who struggled with infertility themselves and so they write from their own experience. I found it especially helpful to hear the struggle that a wife might go through and the struggle that a husband might go through because they experience this struggle in different ways. It’s a very honest article that ultimately points the reader to the precious objective promises of God in the Bible. Like a lament Psalm it moves from real honest emotions in the midst of struggle to real honest hope in God. I originally found it on the web-site for the Christian Counseling and Education Foundation (CCEF). But you can click here to download it.


6 thoughts on ““The Bible and the Pain of Infertility”: Learning to Weep with Those Who Weep

  1. Brian, Thanks for this post. We have struggled with this issue for some time now. Even though it has not been intentional, many have been insensitive, especially with their comments to my dear wife. We pray for the opportunity to have our full quiver and to raise our own children. whether naturally or through adoption, in the Lord.

  2. Thanks for stopping by Keith. I will pray for you and your wife today. I hope this post and article raises awareness. Like you said, many are unaware of the way in which they may be hurting couples who struggle with infertility. My guess is that I have done this myself at one time or another. Hopefully more and more we can make the church a place where couples who are struggling with this can experience the sympathetic love of their Savior through brothers and sisters in the body of Christ.

  3. Yes – thank you for drawing attention to this. This is indeed a HUGELY important issue and, as you say, is so often overlooked and minimized even among the body of Christ. I’m hopeful that someone with a high view of God’s sovereignty, a robust view of the extent of the curse, and an unwavering focus on the gospel will write something one day that will be a blessing and encouragement to couples who bear this burden, and a guide for those of us who walk alongside them to help us to better love and support them in this their valley of the shadow of death …

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